African-Americans: Dating on the Front Lines

by Omar Khilaed

FACED WITH a relentless campaign — the most recent salvo is from none other than the Washington Post — encouraging African-Americans to abandon their heritage when it comes to marriage and sexual relationships, some black folks have decided to stand up for the continued existence of black families. An organization has been formed to help African-Americans find potential mates in black communities around the globe, instead of caving in to the evident agenda of the billionaire-owned media. Historically, empires (from the Assyrians to the Spanish to the Empire of Dollars we have today) have always encouraged interracial relationships because they dilute the identities of their subject peoples — and such mixing eventually causes troublesome groups to disappear. (Of course, the empire’s spokesmen always say that they are motivated by things like “love” and “fairness” and “equality” and “diversity.”)

Well, the activist who goes by the name of African Diasporan doesn’t want his people to disappear. He’s started a Web site called African Diasporan Relationships, and here’s what he has to say:

‘Is dating and marriage between blacks throughout the African Diaspora the future of black relationships? In my opinion it is and here is the reason why: It is no secret that black men and women in America are having difficulties in recent years in terms of what we expect from one another, and dating prospects within our community. Indeed there have been numerous discussions held on the Internet, TV, in movies and magazines on this very subject. Typical in these debates will be statistics showing the number of African American men in prisons, the number of homosexuals in the African American community; single mothers raising children without the support of any male figure; the ratio of educated black women compared to that of educated black men; and arguments about the so-called shortage of black males.

‘In almost all of these debates, choosing to date different cultures is a proposed solution to the perceived shortage of desirable dating prospects in the African American community. By different cultures, the authors and participants of these debates are almost always referring to interracial dating. Whether it be whites, Hispanics, or Asians; the implication is that black people cannot find differences of beliefs and experience among our own. Nothing could be further from the truth! It is not necessary to go outside of the race to explore different cultures and attitudes towards dating, family, and male-female relations. Black people are literally all over the world. Occupying over 40 different countries in Africa alone, as well as countries in Europe, the Caribbean, South America, and Canada. Each country has its own unique culture, beliefs, and value system.

‘This Web site was created to celebrate these types of relationships, and to recognize the potential they have to strengthen black families throughout the world. The potential for learning more about black cultures and building strong black families is one I can personally testify to, as I am in an African Diasporan marriage. As an African American man, I have been married to a beautiful African woman (born in Europe) for the past ten years. This marriage has produced two beautiful children with African names and full knowledge of their heritage. The relationship has allowed us both to explore different foods, listen to different music, and to visit other countries. The potential and promise of African Diasporan relationships is that they allow black people to broaden their knowledge and experience of different cultures while simultaneously strengthening the bonds of black communities. African Diasporan relationships gives black people to opportunity to not only build bridges but to create communities. In short African Diasporan relationships are the future of black relationships….’

More and more people — African-Americans and many others — are realizing that surviving as a people in modern times takes active effort, not just unspoken hopes.

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