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					<description><![CDATA[Arman asks: Do we need a new code of sexual morality? by H. Millard IN OUR BELIEF SYSTEM for ourselves alone, our thinking on morality is based on the belief that each of us as White individuals must multiply and expand our particular DNA Code to its maximum during our lifetimes. In what follows, you can substitute &#8220;God&#8221; or the <a class="more-link" href="https://theamericanmercury.org/2013/06/needed-a-new-sexual-morality/">Continue Reading &#8594;</a>]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>Arman asks: Do we need a new code of sexual morality?</em></p>
<p>by H. Millard</p>
<p>IN OUR BELIEF SYSTEM for ourselves alone, our thinking on morality is based on the belief that each of us as White individuals must multiply and expand our particular DNA Code to its maximum during our lifetimes.</p>
<p>In what follows, you can substitute &#8220;God&#8221; or the &#8220;First Cause&#8221; for &#8220;Nature&#8221; and vice versa.</p>
<p><strong>The DNA code:</strong> We believe that what is most essential in each individual is his or her DNA code and that we, as the individuals we see in the mirror, are the means to the spread of that internal DNA code. It would be an error in thinking, however, to believe that we &#8212; who we see in the mirror &#8212;  are nothing but robots who exist for the pleasure of some internal &#8220;being&#8221; that orders us about. We and our DNA code are one, and are inseparable, and the DNA code is not a separate being and is not capable of thinking or willing anything. The basic core DNA code &#8212; that we believe is the same in all life &#8212; is, speaking metaphorically, like a tiny machine that has been programmed to constantly, endlessly, and tirelessly make more like itself by tinkering, changing, and modifying the add-ons to the basic core DNA code. We as humans and specifically as White humans are examples of those add-ons as are all other forms of life, and each form of life has its own particular DNA code surrounding the basic core DNA code. We call our White subspecies DNA code &#8220;Code A.&#8221;</p>
<p><strong>The basics:</strong> As you read on, remember that humans have 46 chromosomes with about 3.1 billion combinations of the four letters of DNA &#8212; A,T,C,G (think of them as genetic playing cards) &#8212; and about 20,000 genes. When we are conceived, we get 23 chromosomes from our father and 23 from our mother. That means a child will receive approximately 1.5 billion genetic playing cards from the father and 1.5 billion from the mother, and in those genetic playing cards will be 10,000 genes from the father and 10,000 from the mother. If the father and mother are of the same subspecies (subspecies is a better term for race), and in our case this means if both parents are White, that child will be fully of that subspecies. If the father and mother are not of the same subspecies, that child will be mixed.</p>
<p>Remember, also, that It takes two White parents to produce a new White child. A White person and a person from any other subspecies cannot produce a White child. Why? Simply because that child will never have the full complement of White chromosomes and genes. Remember, it takes 46 White chromosomes to make a new White child and every child gets 23 chromosomes from each parent.</p>
<p><strong>Our internal clocks:</strong> Nature has set things up so that females of our species can only get pregnant about once every year. And, Nature has also set it up so that our females usually only produce one child at a time. A female&#8217;s internal clock starts young and runs out fairly young. That&#8217;s one of the reasons why females of our species mature faster than males &#8212; to increase their child bearing years so they can produce the maximum number of children. The other reason why human females mature faster than males is that her eggs get old as she ages and they are better when they are fresh.</p>
<p>Men, on the other hand, can impregnate several women a day every day of the year. Men can also produce children late into life as their internal clock keeps running until they die. Nature is a frugal inventor and just as it has designed females in a certain way with a certain internal clock in order for the species to survive and expand to its maximum, it has also designed males with certain other attributes to also help the species survive and expand &#8212; but more of this below.</p>
<p>If we followed Nature&#8217;s way, with Nature&#8217;s true morality, we would not have males tied to a female&#8217;s internal clock, which is exactly what happens in a traditional one man, one woman marriage.</p>
<p>So, either Nature is wrong about how humans should make more like themselves, or we humans are wrong. In fact, it is <em>we humans who are wrong</em> with our artificial morality. We have arrogantly overruled the survival and evolution methods that Nature has engineered for our species. Instead of <em>maximizing</em> our reproduction, as Nature intends, we have <em>minimized</em> it. This artificial morality holds down our birthrate and is a prescription for our extinction. In fact, this one man, one woman morality has been going on for so long that many humans incorrectly think it is natural. It isn&#8217;t. In our world today, we&#8217;re seeing a similar attempt to overrule Nature as humans begin accepting homosexuality and homosexual marriage as normal. Normal? This is absurd. How can anyone think homosexuality is normal? Such relationships produce no children. And, Nature screams out to go forth and multiply your kind. That&#8217;s why we have males and females.</p>
<p><strong>Sperm and eggs:</strong> But there&#8217;s more to this that needs to be understood. In our species, men constantly produce new sperm, while a woman produces her lifetime&#8217;s worth of eggs just once and then automatically rations them out each month &#8212; unless she&#8217;s pregnant, and then, in this case, the rationing stops until after she gives birth and then the eggs start being rationed out again.</p>
<p>Because of the constantly produced new sperm, changes can and do occur in the sperm caused by everything from temperature in the environment, to cosmic rays, and even emotional pressures of the world around the man, such as wars and other situations, both external and internal, that cause the man&#8217;s brain to have various stresses and reactions which in turn cause his body to release hormones differently, which then affect the sperm. It is these changes in the sperm that bring about most mutations in our species. That is why men produce sperm all the time until they die of old age; to allow for changes in the species as changes in the world happen, so that the species can adapt genetically and survive. The goal of Nature is to bring forth a new life that is ready for the way the world is when the child is born. But, too many changes, too fast, could have a deleterious effect on the species, because some of the changes in the world might just be temporary, and will change back to the way it was before; so a woman&#8217;s eggs provide a check on the changes and give stability to the species. To express it in somewhat exaggerated words: We wouldn&#8217;t want to have our children develop thick pelts of fur after just one aberrant and especially cold winter.</p>
<p>To put all of this in slightly different terms, Nature has set things up this way with the sperm and the eggs for two major reasons. The first reason is that it wants stability of the type. This is afforded by the eggs which are not changed once they&#8217;re made and will give a new child half of its chromosomes that have not been changed. Yet, Nature needs to be able to bring in changes to the species when necessary so that the species can adapt to ever-changing conditions. The constantly produced new sperm of males allow necessary changes to be introduced into half of the chromosomes.</p>
<p><strong>Mutations:</strong> Up until recent years, it was thought that mutations were mostly rare and harmful. This was because the mutations that were easily seen were usually major things that caused deformities in the child. We now know that&#8217;s not the way it is. We now know that mutations happen all the time and that most are very minor and often not seen, but they are still there and they can have a cumulative effect. The reality is that Nature constantly shuffles those 3.1 billion genetic playing cards of our DNA code, but the shuffle only usually changes a few cards in the order of the deck at a time and if the changes give a survival advantage to the organism, then, in time, the changes may spread throughout the whole population. In fact, that&#8217;s how we White people came into existence. Among other changes, we mutated to have our White skin so we can produce more Vitamin D than darker peoples.</p>
<p><strong>Our belief:</strong> In this faith, we believe that the important part of each of us is our particular DNA code and that we are commanded by Nature (again, read God if you prefer) to multiply and expand that code that we carry within us as much as possible. This means that we must have as many children of our kind of human as possible. But note that this command is given to each of us as individuals. Thus, every male is commanded as an individual to have as many children as he can during all the years that he can produce children. And, every female is also commanded to do the same thing. So you can see right away that we have a problem with the present artificial morality that demands a man and woman be a traditionally married couple to be the parents of children. This prevents a man from spreading his particular DNA code as Nature commands and slows down mutations, the expansion of our DNA code, and our evolution. If human evolution is stalled as some have maintained, it may be because of the false morality as outlined above.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">* * *</p>
<p>From the above comes a natural morality for the survival, expansion and evolution of the White subspecies:</p>
<p>1. Marriage or mating arrangements that hold a male to the female one-child-a-year body clock are artificial and hold down our birthrate. Polygamy and similar forms of marriage and arrangements are most likely to help a male expand his particular DNA code to the maximum, and will still offer stability and support to the mothers who will not just be abandoned by the males.</p>
<p>2. Women are precious and special, precisely because they can only usually produce a new one of us just once a year. This means that we must protect them and keep them from harm&#8217;s way. This also means that women in the military should not serve in combat and women should not be put in danger. Men are more expendable.</p>
<p>3. Homosexuality is wrong because it does not allow us to multiply and expand our DNA code to its maximum.</p>
<p>4. Miscegenation is wrong because it does not multiply or expand or help evolve our particular DNA code because it produces children who are not White.</p>
<p>5. Birth control in all its forms and celibacy and family planning are all wrong because they limit the multiplication and expansion of our DNA code.</p>
<p>6. Anything that shortens our lives is wrong because this keeps us from expanding our DNA code. Thus false patriotism and wars that are not to advance our particular DNA code are wrong for us.</p>
<p>7. The command to go forth and multiply your kind is the responsibility of each male and each female individually.</p>
<p>Now, to be clear, this is not a call for the wholesale abandonment by Whites of traditional one man, one woman marriages for those who want such marriages &#8212; but for those who want to expand their DNA code to the maximum, and who want to help guarantee our survival and our evolution as a people, other forms of relationships that allow this to happen are needed that are more in tune with the biological realities of our species as engineered by Nature.</p>
<p>Furthermore, those Whites who are in traditional marriages where their mate is unable to conceive, often wrongly believe, because of societal conditioning and false beliefs, that they must follow artificial man-made morality and not expand their particular DNA code because of their barren marriage. This is false thinking and false morality and will lead to the extinction of the DNA code of the mate who can procreate, unless that mate follows Nature&#8217;s command given to each of us individually, to procreate.</p>
<p>(© 2013 H. Millard)</p>
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		<title>What Happened to All the Nice Guys?</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Malcolm P. Shiel]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 18 Sep 2010 01:19:39 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[by Anonymous I SEE this question posted with some regularity in the personal ads, so I thought I&#8217;d take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there who haven&#8217;t figured it out. What happened to all the nice guys? The answer is simple: You did. See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic <a class="more-link" href="https://theamericanmercury.org/2010/09/what-happened-to-all-the-nice-guys/">Continue Reading &#8594;</a>]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>by Anonymous</p>
<p>I SEE this question posted with some regularity in the personal ads, so I thought I&#8217;d take a minute to explain things to the ladies  out there who haven&#8217;t figured it out.</p>
<p><em>What happened to all the nice guys? </em></p>
<p>The answer is simple: You did.</p>
<p>See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a  Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He&#8217;d  tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a  movie when you were lonely but didn&#8217;t feel like going out, or even sit  there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the  (other) guy &#8212; the one that you <em>were</em> intimate with &#8212; treated you.</p>
<p>At the time, you probably joked with your girl friends about how he was a  little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to  get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they  thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, you thought, a  little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for  him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were &#8220;just  friends.&#8221; Besides, he totally wasn&#8217;t your type. I mean, he was a little  too old or too young, too short, or too  poor, or didn&#8217;t know how to  dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall,  good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with  such ease.</p>
<p>Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with  the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy  was, you thought, a little weird, if you weren&#8217;t dating him. More time  passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became &#8220;boring,&#8221;  or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren&#8217;t the  kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now,  you&#8217;re single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several  months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder,  &#8220;What happened to all the nice guys?&#8221;</p>
<p>Well, once again, <em>you did</em>.</p>
<p>You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without  reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his  consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend  more than the attentive &#8220;just-a-&#8221; friend.</p>
<p>Eventually, he took the hint  and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that  modern women aren&#8217;t really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make  dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in  passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you&#8217;re  upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a  woman like you, he&#8217;d have to act more like the jerk boyfriend that you had.  He probably cleaned up his look, started making some real money, and  generally acted like more of an ass than he ever wanted to be.</p>
<p>Fact is, now, he&#8217;s probably &#8220;getting some,&#8221; and in a way, your ultimate  rejection of him is to thank for that. And I&#8217;m sorry that it took the  complete absence of &#8220;nice guys&#8221; in your life for you to realize that you  missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of  nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.</p>
<p>So, if you&#8217;re looking for a nice guy, here&#8217;s what you do:</p>
<p>1.) Build a time machine.<br />
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of where it&#8217;s been.<br />
3.) Take a look at what&#8217;s right in front of you and grab hold of it.</p>
<p>I suppose the other possibility is that you <em>still</em> don&#8217;t really want a  nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least <em>appear </em>to have  matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be  in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed  his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and  resentment onto someone just like you.</p>
<p>If you were five years younger.</p>
<p>So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the  fact that you and your social set have ruined your life. You&#8217;re getting older, after all.  It&#8217;s time to excise the mental garbage and posing and deal with reality. You didn&#8217;t want a  nice guy then, and he certainly doesn&#8217;t goddamned want you now.</p>
<p>Sincerely,</p>
<p>A Recovering Nice Guy.</p>
<p><strong>EDITOR&#8217;S NOTE:</strong> It is the sex-without-love attitudes inculcated by the mass media and the anti-Nature &#8220;sophisticates&#8221; that are responsible for the breakdown in the love relations between men and women in the West. And the resulting below-replacement birthrates spell our doom unless we change things, fast. Nice guys have the right instincts, but little insight. Both sexes need to treasure and love and appreciate each other if we intend to survive as a civilization &#8212; and have meaningful lives as individuals. &#8212; M.P. Shiel</p>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Philip St. Raymond]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Apr 2010 13:02:27 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[by Omar Khilaed FACED WITH a relentless campaign &#8212; the most recent salvo is from none other than the Washington Post &#8212; encouraging African-Americans to abandon their heritage when it comes to marriage and sexual relationships, some black folks have decided to stand up for the continued existence of black families. An organization has been formed to help African-Americans find <a class="more-link" href="https://theamericanmercury.org/2010/04/african-americans-dating-on-the-front-lines/">Continue Reading &#8594;</a>]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>by Omar Khilaed</p>
<p>FACED WITH a relentless campaign &#8212; the most recent salvo is from none other than the <em>Washington Post</em> &#8212; encouraging African-Americans to abandon their heritage when it comes to marriage and sexual relationships, some black folks have decided to stand up for the continued existence of black families. An organization has been formed to help African-Americans find potential mates in black communities around the globe, instead of caving in to the evident agenda of the billionaire-owned media. Historically, empires (from the Assyrians to the Spanish to the Empire of Dollars we have today) have always encouraged interracial relationships because they dilute the identities of their subject peoples &#8212; and such mixing eventually causes troublesome groups to disappear. (Of course, the empire&#8217;s spokesmen always say that they are motivated by things like &#8220;love&#8221; and &#8220;fairness&#8221; and &#8220;equality&#8221; and &#8220;diversity.&#8221;)</p>
<p>Well, the activist who goes by the name of African Diasporan doesn&#8217;t want his people to disappear. He&#8217;s started a Web site called <a href="http://africandiasporanrelationships.ning.com/" class="broken_link">African Diasporan Relationships</a>, and here&#8217;s what he has to say:</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">&#8216;Is dating and marriage between blacks throughout the African Diaspora the future of black relationships? In my opinion it is and here is the reason why: It is no secret that black men and women in America are having difficulties in recent years in terms of what we expect from one another, and dating prospects within our community. Indeed there have been numerous discussions held on the Internet, TV, in movies and magazines on this very subject. Typical in these debates will be statistics showing the number of African American men in prisons, the number of homosexuals in the African American community; single mothers raising children without the support of any male figure; the ratio of educated black women compared to that of educated black men; and arguments about the so-called shortage of black males.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">&#8216;In almost all of these debates, choosing to date different cultures is a proposed solution to the perceived shortage of desirable dating prospects in the African American community. By different cultures, the authors and participants of these debates are almost always referring to <em>interracial</em> dating. Whether it be whites, Hispanics, or Asians; the implication is that black people cannot find differences of beliefs and experience among our own. Nothing could be further from the truth! It is not necessary to go outside of the race to explore different cultures and attitudes towards dating, family, and male-female relations. Black people are literally all over the world. Occupying over 40 different countries in Africa alone, as well as countries in Europe, the Caribbean, South America, and Canada. Each country has its own unique culture, beliefs, and value system.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">&#8216;This Web site was created to celebrate these types of relationships, and to recognize the potential they have to strengthen black families throughout the world. The potential for learning more about black cultures and building strong black families is one I can personally testify to, as I am in an African Diasporan marriage. As an African American man, I have been married to a beautiful African woman (born in Europe) for the past ten years. This marriage has produced two beautiful children with African names and full knowledge of their heritage. The relationship has allowed us both to explore different foods, listen to different music, and to visit other countries. The potential and promise of African Diasporan relationships is that they allow black people to broaden their knowledge and experience of different cultures while simultaneously strengthening the bonds of black communities. African Diasporan relationships gives black people to opportunity to not only build bridges but to create communities. In short African Diasporan relationships are the future of black relationships&#8230;.&#8217;</p>
<p>More and more people &#8212; African-Americans and many others &#8212; are realizing that surviving as a people in modern times takes active effort, not just unspoken hopes.</p>
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